How can children be helped to keep enduring abuse from crushing their sprits

and misshaping their personalities while they are still yet children?

 Due to the physical, emotional and intellectual abuse that I endured as a child, My parents birthdays as well as Mothers and Fathers Day were torturous for me to get through and beyond!

Thus, May, June- My Father had a June Birthday  and October - My mother claimed to different dates that Month as her birthday- were Fields of Nightmares for me.


 So, How do people who have younger relatives who have been stained by this spectre keep these days from further negatively impact their childhoods?