Is Tough too often misdefined?

 I've been bullied a lot in my life, I've been hit and intimidated more than I care to count.I've even cried and cringed at times. Life is fascinating. We are all taught and we all know that to be sane and grounded we must GET! that we can not control others.Thus, We truly cannot control whether people treat us poorly or well either verbally or physically. As is often said when we discuss keep people such as The President, not only Mr. Obama but anyone who has served in this office, " If someone is really determined to get at him, Then it is going to be very difficult to stop him or her."

Thus, As I keep learning, It is how you tutor your spirit that really determines whether you are truly brave and resilient. Can you take things in stride? Can you put your roughest moments in perspective?Do you decide that while suffering is inevitable, misery is optional.

 A person who limps from intense pain and cries because he or she is dealing with overwhelming physical or emotional suffering is in tumult and struggling. Yest, The limping while in pain does not, at all mean that he or she is physically weak. The tears that he or she is shedding does not mean that he or she is physically weak, does not at all denote that he or she is a coward.

 The desire to continue on and the willfulness not to be detered is a sign of heart, determination and bravery. Toughness is not solely defined by muscle, the ability to inflict pain and the ability to willfully physically dominate another. That is merely a way to express what some regard as toughness. The desire to progress, to live well in spite of and to not let others choose who you are, what you want, what you believe in and what you represent is, to me, the best way to demonstrate toughness and steadfast and disciplined courage.

- Johnny -